Letter to Lise-Anne
Dear Lise-Anne:
In July 2017 your Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) flared up and shattered our wonderful family.
Nobody saw it coming. Not me, not family members, not friends…and I surmise that even you were caught unaware. You didn’t tell the people who love you the most that you were suffering. Instead you kept it to yourself. Nobody knew you had been diagnosed with BPD.
It took me over a year to find out what was causing so much pain and panic. I wish you had told me and all the people that loved you – that you were hurting inside, afraid and scared. We all could have helped you. We all wanted to help you and support you.
Why did you never tell me that you had started seeing a psychiatrist? and had been prescribed psychotic drugs?
From that fateful day forward [27-July-2017], our wonderful family life became a Horror Story. You destroyed the happy lives of 5 people, including yours.
Every attempt I made after that fateful day to help you heal and to understand your pain, was met with rejection and silence. You refused all help from friends and family. You even silenced your Father and close friends like Christine Chung.
Instead of taking the support line, you cut the rope.
But no matter how much pain you feel, there is no excuse to destroy the Childhood of our three beautiful boys. If you want another husband or a different kind of happiness- you can choose that — BUT YOU DO NOT HAVE THE MORAL RIGHT TO DESTROY THE LIVES OF OUR CHILDREN. I beg you to stop abusing the boys and restore yourself to a kind and trustworthy person- deserving to be called a mother.
I will forgive you- absolutely. We have children to raise together. They matter above everything else. No matter how badly you treat me, I will take it all and forgive your crimes to protect our wonderful boys.
Now, that it has been exposed what happened, you can stand up for your transgressions and earn the boys’ respect back.
When we decided to have Babies, we promised each other to do everything in our power to make their lives the best ones possible, and endure any crisis. “To Infinity and Beyond”– you told me so often.
But instead of providing our children with a better future than our own, you have chosen the footsteps of your abusive Mother. She abducted you as a child, and treated you as pawn in negotiation with your father. You suffered neglect, abandoment and abuse as a young child. Now you are acting in the same malevolent manner as your Mother.
I beg you to Stop the Pain and Suffering for our Soren, Brig and Reidar.
In the early days of your breakdown, I comforted you, took 100% responsibility for the crisis, and offered my unconditional support. I begged you, offering anything to stop this crisis. Even when you demanded that I move out of the house, you told me the reason was “so you had time to heal”. What an extraordinary lie- a lie that destroys lives. Read the letter here.
I wish this Nightmare had been stopped. I wish you had trusted me with your hurting instead of smashing yourself and our family.
Where has the kind and loving woman I fell in love with 25 years ago disappeared to?
Please turn around now, it’s never too late.
I beg you.
To Infinity and Beyond.